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<\/a>But it\u2019s also a recipe for freedom.<\/p>\n
It’s really not enough to say, “I’m more sensitive, so of course I’m going to be more affected.” The fact is that we are constantly looking for ways to express how we feel\u2014the freedom to express how we feel\u2014because so much of our time is spent trying not<\/em> to express how we feel. You\u00a0 know, all the sticky stuff. The things for other people that may seem all in a day\u2019s work, but for us mean trepidation or panic or pain or exhaustion.<\/p>\n In our society, when you lose someone to death, suddenly an opening occurs. You are offered a sort of reprieve from the \u201cbuck up and deal with it\u201d way of life. People are more willing to let you cry openly, talk about your feelings, reveal your emotional state through what you say, do, eat, or undertake. Even if it still makes them miserably uncomfortable.<\/p>\n In other words, grieving becomes a logical reason for your emotional state, which somehow makes it easier and more acceptable for others to handle.<\/p>\n The thing about grief is that being in that state also makes it okay for us<\/em>. You know, the ones who are doing the grieving. It opens the door for our more authentic selves to peek through the curtains behind which we are constantly, dedicatedly, hiding. We get more leeway to be who we are, act the way we might act, and respond the way we might respond when we can point to loss as the reason behind it all.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying that we are using death as an excuse! All I\u2019m saying is that it takes an inordinate amount of energy to plug the valve of your state of being on a constant basis. Energy to control, mitigate, calm, or annihilate through whatever means you decide works for you. Is it food? Or drugs? Or isolation? Whatever it is, it takes a powerfully high level of energy to deflect attention from the state of your being. It\u2019s as if we\u2019re storing it up like a bunch of nuts in a squirrel\u2019s hideaway that we never get to use unless something \u201cacceptable\u201d comes along. Something like death.<\/p>\n I\u2019m also not saying that death of someone you love (or have any kind of relationship with) isn\u2019t a big deal. In fact, there\u2019s pretty much nothing like it on the scale of what sucks. Still, I know that if I hadn\u2019t been so weighed down, so burdened by my own need to hide what I felt about everything under the sun, I might not have collapsed so completely upon the death of my husband. The plug in the value came off and out came years of repressed, suppressed freak-out.<\/p>\n The first step in not feeling you have to hide is accepting your HSP-ness for what it is: A true blessing. In order to do that, we need to dedicate ourselves to knowing there is another answer beyond \u201ccoping.\u201d A much easier, user-friendly approach that is committed to opening, heightening, and exemplifying.<\/p>\n We all admit that loss and death are part of life, but that doesn\u2019t usually help us when the time comes to deal with it. As a Highly Sensitive Person, though, death does not have to crush us like a bolder on an ant.<\/p>\n Know yourself. Express yourself. Be yourself. Love yourself. That\u2019s where it all starts.<\/p>\n ******<\/p>\n Check out my posts on the Psychic Octopus<\/a> (globbing onto other people’s energy); your UES<\/a> (how to identify and stay in your Unique Energetic Signature); and your IGS (how to confidently and consistently tap into your Intuitive Guidance System<\/a>.<\/p>\n Thank you for shining your light into the world!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Death, Loss, & The HSP It\u2019s no wonder that being a person with heightened sensitivities carries with it an extra charge around the experience of loss. 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Is grieving a good thing?<\/h3>\n
Death sucks<\/h3>\n